10 years ago I fell madly in love.

today i’ve buried the remains.

I’m free. again.

truly free.

Sometimes people come into our lives and seem to bring some kind of light or temptation.
I’ve seen it happen to me and I’ve seen it happen to people around me.

Sometimes we clearly see what the message is and feel almost as if enlightened by what this person brought to us.

And sometimes, people might show us something that tempt us away from whatever is present in our lives. Some people might interpret it as a test. But I believe it is meant to bring us awareness. It’s not a test in the sense that we must overcome that temptation at all costs. Kinda like “The Devil is tempting you”, no.

We need to understand why we were tempted in the first place. Maybe that tells us that something isn’t quite right in our lives the way we thought it was, or we wouldn’t even be tempted by it. It is a moment to realize where we stand and if we truly are where we wish to be. Or, did we take a detour, got lost along the way and forgot about it because we simply got comfortable where we are now?

Some people come into our lives to wake us up, by showing us something that we were aiming for, or something that we want or need and is currently missing but never fully realized it. It doesn’t necessarily mean that this person is the one holding our answers or the one that will lead us to the right path. You might never even see them again.

You choose what path to take. You might conclude that, all things considered, you prefer to stay in your current situation than to risk leaving it to pursue something else.

Just make sure you don’t seattle for less than you deserve because you’re comfortable. I believe situations occur to push and remind us of the direction we want to be heading for. It can dig up a need you ignored and push you into giving it the thought it deserves.

You discover yourself and keep on evolving!

Ignoring such triggers can cost us precious time. I know that it cost me!

WTF?! When harassed, who doesn’t just love to hear this gem from someone close to them: “Maybe you did something to provoke it.”?!

NO! FUCK NO! Do I really need to shout out loud how wrong this is?! Really? The sad thing is, this is more common than we ‘d like to admit.

The sick mentality that the vagina is always the one to blame MUST END! Vaginas don’t need to provoke to be harassed or victimized!!

If a woman’s to blame for being harassed on the way she looks, well then, why don’t we implement the mandatory use of burkas as well?! NO! because that doesn’t solve the damn problem!

Why not?! Because it’s not a woman’s fault if someone can’t control themselves!

“The vagina made me do it!”, cause you know, women have that hypnotic power that cause men to do whatever she wants, including raping and brutalizing her! Of course! It’s every girl dream! Isn’t it??

If a guy has his shirt off and a girl is all over him she’s the slut. If a girl

Mainstream seems to in some sort of way to idolize men-whores, “oh he’s such a stud” or “oh, he’s such a MAN” (ew)! Girls, are just depreciative sluts and whores. WHY?! Am I the only one who sees something wrong with this?? Either we call everyone a dirty whore, woman or man, or we admire and swoon over all of them regardless of gender. Am I the only one to think this is fair?

How can people fight for equality and still judge based on these archaic standards?!

I’m revolted.

(credit: photo by weglet)

Courage to live.

Courage to speak.

Courage to fight.