What if we detached ourselves from our chores and obligations. What if we look at life as we look at a tv show? What if we wake up in the morning, or better yet, go to sleep wondering and looking forward to what will happen the next day.

Each day is an episode. Some episodes turn out to be rather boring and uninteresting, while some are worthwhile the time. Each day is a new episode.

What if just like a tv show, after so many crappy episodes we give up watching. We move on to the next tv show.

Each area of our live can be a tv show. Family, school, work, hobby, social events, each one is a separate tv show. Each one has it’s characters. The only common element is ourselves.

What happens when all these show suck? We stop watching and search for another one! If nothing satisfies you, you create a new set and join a new cast!

It’s a new year all over gain. It’s the beginning of one more cycle of our continuity.

Resolutions aside, what’s the best way of starting it? Dates and events will be repeated, seasons will replay and we’re still the same. It’s up to ourselves to provoke change where it want it. Little adjustments to our attitude might go a long way.

The new year can be exciting if you look at it as new opportunities that will rise where you can to shine through. Or it can be a dreadful feeling of deja vu where you expect nothing new to come of it and feel trapped in a loop.

Like someone once told me, we need only to resign ourselves of the past. You only can’t change what has already passed. Everything else deserves a fighting change. Don’t limit yourself. Don’t resign yourself to an endless loop.

All your power lies in your attitude. The way you face the world around you is more powerful than might you think. It affects everything. You change the way you see yourself, the way you deal with others change, the way others respond to you changes, opportunities change.

At first it might hard to shift to a more positive approach. Just remember, whatever your insecurities are, others have them too. Everybody is flawed. It all comes down to how we deal with it and if we let it overpower us. Everyone has value, so let others see you.

Don’t be afraid and embrace who you are. Polish your positive side and don’t obsess over the negative. Focus on what you want and how you’ll get it instead on what you can’t have!

Have a great year!

When we are kids everything seems fairly simple, innocently simple, and the world has very little shades of gray. As we grow up we tend to complicate, we create a great variety of shades in most matters.

It’s refreshing to be around kids and see the world in that light again. Personally, being around (so called) adults for a while becomes rather draining and tedious.

Ever since I went back to karate and started to deal with kids and teenagers even, I slowly rediscovered children’s simple points of view.

Take yourself back in time to when you’re a little kid. What did you enjoyed doing the most? What were your favorite things? What would you answer be to your problems of today? Who did you want to become? Who did you look up to and why?

It’s easy to get caught up in the big web of adult thinking, where we take into account many external factors. Which it’s rather pointless most of the time, but we think it matters so!

I think we develop an unnecessary tendency to we overcomplicate as we grow up. Not everything may be as simple as it was when we were children, but we certainly get a taste for complicating things.

We also get so wrapped up in being adults sometimes and quickly dismiss any childish activities.

We tend to stir away from doing simple things if they serve no direct or productive purpose. We become obsessed with productivity and ignore the small things that used to bring us joy.

Why not waste some time just looking at something simply because it’s beautiful?

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Why? Why does it repeat itself? Usually because we haven’t changed the way we deal with it, we haven’t tried new angles. Or maybe we have changed a bit but still got the same end result. Maybe the that change alone wasn’t enough.

Making changes to our behavior, attitudes and patterns is much like experimenting with a cooking recipe. We tweak it until we’re satisfied with it.

Some get it right the first time, while others struggle a bit with the process. But eventually if we’re persistent we end up getting it right.

The past week I was wondering, what was it that I could do differently. My brain was taking me nowhere, so I grabbed my notebook and wrote that question. Then I realized that first I need to figure out what was it that I did wrong. So I needed to start by figuring out what my behavior was and only then move on to that question.

So in order:
- What was your initial pattern?
- What were you doing wrong?
- What can you do differently now?

I do recommend writing it down as you go along, it’s like a conversation flowing within yourself. Your answers come faster this way.

One important thing to keep in mind is, what is it that you want to get from this situation. This is important.

Here’s a mindless example, trying to break a pattern of shyness I was wondering if I should ask this one person’s number. And on my notes I wrote “Should I ask for the number? With a reason? Without any reason? As a test?”. It became clear to me that the only reason I wanted it was to see what reaction it would cause. I wouldn’t call nor would I text, so there was no point. It could make up for something awkward. And I actually like the slow pace I’m getting to know this person. I want things to happen naturally without forced interventions.

So maybe we should also add this one to the list:

- What is the desired outcome?

Even if you don’t get it right this time, the ride should feel different. And possibly provide you with new information. Every experience offers knowledge.

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I bet most of us have had days when we critically analyze many of our actions and it’s consequences. Or worried about the numerous different outcomes according to our actions or words. Run through our head a bunch of simulations of what might happen or how someone might take it.

We wonder, should I say it? Should I do it? What’s the best approach to this? Will this work better? Maybe another way is better? And so on and so forth.

This is our tactics! Either we’re successful or not, we try to carefully plan our move to achieve the best outcome.

The other day I was really tired of over thinking so many moves and that’s when it all started to feel like a game. We even have manuals!

Either it is online or on bookshelves, there’s a million words written how we can improve ourselves, our skills, our attitude, our earnings, our success, our lifestyle, and anything else you can think of.

And it is just like when we are stuck in a game and go online looking for some cheats or tricks and tips on how to move on to the next stage.

There are the strategic players and even the casual or spontaneous players, those who just randomly push some buttons. There are those who just want to get to the end fast failing to collect, on purpose, any excess bonus points, and those who take the extra time to find them all.

So, life is a game we play. We need to get through several stages and levels as we progress thought life, earning and loosing points.

And sometimes we’re motivated with this game, while other’s we’re just trying to finish and see the end of it.

Sometimes we need a break from the game, to lighten our head, have a rest and get our energy or motivation flowing again.

Sometimes we are so engaged in the game that we take it too seriously. We focus too much on the goals we need to accomplish and we forget to enjoy the whole experience of the game.

Let’s take our time and admire the whole package.

Remember that kind of person you either try to tolerate or simply ignore? Someone who’s behavior is inappropriate or painfully annoying. We usually tend to ignore those people who we don’t know and to tolerate those we do know.

But what good comes out of tolerating them? If it’s someone we know, most often we don’t want to be rude and just put up with it until it drives us crazy. That can’t be good! And believe me I’ve been there quite a few times.

Ever since I was a small kid I get this from friends. And guess that’s why I never seemed to have a fixed set of them. I always rotated best friends! Once I even seemed to have detected a time frame of about 3 years to reach my limit. I know, this was bad!

But I supposed I wanted to please and didn’t wanted any possible conflict. So I would put up with certain things that eventually would escalate until I couldn’t stand it anymore. And this would lead to a friendship break-up. And then on to the next doomed friendship!

Initially we brush it off, then it slowly crawls into under our skin and it starts to tick us off. After a while we can be dreading this person beyond repair.

Tolerating someone’s annoying or inappropriate behavior will only prolong it and eventually possibly escalate. Waiting around for the person to realize what they’re doing wrong, most likely than ever, it won’t happen!

Make sure to point it out, get their attention on what it is that bothers you and take some time to explain it to them. Tell them how it makes you feel, because otherwise don’t won’t understand what the big deal is.

And, please, simply claiming something like “normal people don’t do that” or whatever, won’t help. This person needs to understand why it is wrong to do what they do, how it affects you. Try to give them something they can empathize with and see it from your angle.

It might work, it might help, but don’t expect miracles. Some people will get it, others won’t.

Don’t shy away from it and don’t think it makes you vulnerable. It will hopefully save you some headaches, it’s all in your best interest! And the sooner you detect it and act on it, the better!

If this is someone you don’t necessarily need to endure, like a co-worker or something alike, there’s no point in insisting, just let it go if it doesn’t improve into a comfortable level.

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Awhile back there’s was a new classmate in my school who happened to from my hometown (rare thing). We started chatting, just really trying to know a little bit more about each other, and in the middle of it I asked her how old she was. She did tell me her age but she also said “I don’t think people’s age is a relevant thing to know”. At the time I just thought “I wasn’t going to discriminate you by your age”, but then I started to wonder, why did I ask about age? Why would that matter, or what would that reveal to me?

Just plain curiosity doesn’t quite answers it.

Age can be a point in common. If our age isn’t too far apart we can find common points in childhood memories, a childhood hero an important event or something else from that era. It gives you a lot of topics to explore with this person, specially when you’re getting to know one another. It can give you a faint idea of their background. Even when it’s someone who’s age is farther from ours, it still pin points an era which we might know something about, or not. It can sparkle questions.

Other than that, how relevant is it?

Will age hint on someone’s maturity? Absolutely no! There are kids whom can be more mature than some adults. Just because there’s a social expectation of a maturity level in accordance with certain ages, it doesn’t make it true.

When we are teenagers we think that we will change and become adults as we turn a certain age. Not so much turning 18, but I see the most reluctance about turning 20 or 21. That’s when we officially leave our teens behind and enter a whole new decade. The 20′ies it’s supposed to be when you get a job, move out, get married, and so on. But the year we were born doesn’t determine much, our personality does.

A lot of younger girls I see look older than me because they behave a certain way, and vice-versa. Even thought we associate these things with age, it’s has more to d with attitude and personality than age.

Sometimes these things can get to our head. I know it got to me when I turned 24 earlier this year. Where I thought I was supposed to be and where I actually was, were very different. And I was going crazy about it, feeling bad and a bit of a loser!

But that was ridiculous. Age shouldn’t matter, just like gender, ethnicity or whatever! We each have our own path, we aren’t supposed to be all serialized in the same stages at the same time.