” You always hurt the one you love
The one you shouldn’t hurt at all
You always take the sweetest rose
And crush it until the petals fall
You always break the kindest heart
With a hasty word you can’t recall
And If I broke your heart last night
It’s because? I love you most of all “

Gorgeous and touching movie.

” As a society, we encourage girls and women to be emotionally accessible, and in touch with their feelings; we say that it’s an innately feminine trait. We say it, that is, until they have feelings that make us uncomfortable, at which point we recast them as melodramatic harpies, shrieking banshees, and basket cases. ”

- Birth of the Uncool, in Bitch Media

By Nayume.

Read the whole thing at Unicornfree » Don’t Follow Your Passion.

” If you want to run a successful café — and enjoy it — you need to love a lot more than coffee. You’ve also gotta get some kind of pleasure, even grim satisfaction, out of the daily grind. (Ha ha.) Which means, of course, interacting with customers, hiring & managing wait staff, handling the day-to-day necessities like ordering supplies, cleaning, paying rent, marketing your butt off, and dealing with customers who want to squat on your valuable tables all day for just $2 of brew. “

I hate 3D movies, always have. Sometimes I give up going out to see a new movie because I can’t find a place nearby (or at all, in some cases) that shows the 2D version. Now here’s a note on the subject from someone who knows what they’re talking about:

” The biggest problem with 3D, though, is the “convergence/focus” issue. A couple of the other issues — darkness and “smallness” — are at least theoretically solvable. But the deeper problem is that the audience must focus their eyes at the plane of the screen — say it is 80 feet away. This is constant no matter what.

But their eyes must converge at perhaps 10 feet away, then 60 feet, then 120 feet, and so on, depending on what the illusion is. So 3D films require us to focus at one distance and converge at another. And 600 million years of evolution has never presented this problem before. All living things with eyes have always focussed and converged at the same point. “

Read the whole thing: Why 3D doesn’t work and never will. Case closed. – Roger Ebert’s Journal.

Don’t you ever get sick of conventional “beauty”?
Don’t you ever crave for something “ugly”?

Just like when you eat too much candy, get so nauseous and can’t stand the mere sight of more candy.

More often than not, “beauty” makes me nauseous.

Tony Porter: A call to men | Video on TED.com.

I sometimes say that just because I have a vagina doesn’t mean I’m a girl/woman.

For those who don’t understand how this could make any sense, here’s a nice little basic video, to introduce you to the world outside the gender norm:

Genderqueer or gender non-conforming: A person who does not identify as a man or woman.
- video above: Transgender Basics – Gender Identity Project

“Third gender or third sex refer to a gender category, of people who are considered neither completely male, nor completely female. It is a gender identity separate from ‘men’ and ‘women,’ of people considered to be the intermediate sex; in-betweens (like the androgynes) or neutrals (like the agendered).

Although contemporary connotations often confuse ‘third gender’ with hermaphrodites, biological hermaphrodites actually comprise a very small percentage of the third genders. Biologically speaking, a hermaphrodite is a person who has both male and female sex organs. However, gender identity is psychological and societal as well as physical, explaining why the majority of individuals who occupy the third gender are physically either male or female, not both.”
- wikipedia article: Third Gender

Marriage is not the only worthy form of family or relationship, and it should not be legally and economically privileged above all others. A majority of people – whatever their sexual and gender identities – do not live in traditional nuclear families. They stand to gain from alternative forms of household recognition beyond one-size-fits-all marriage. For example:

· Single parent households

· Senior citizens living together and serving as each other’s caregivers (think Golden Girls)

· Blended and extended families

· Children being raised in multiple households or by unmarried parents

· Adult children living with and caring for their parents

· Senior citizens who are the primary caregivers to their grandchildren or other relatives

· Close friends or siblings living in non-conjugal relationships and serving as each other’s primary support and caregivers

· Households in which there is more than one conjugal partner

· Care-giving relationships that provide support to those living with extended illness such as HIV/AIDS.

- Beyond Marriage

I seriously related to that. People often dismiss what younger ones say, simply because of their age. Most think that experience is what counts, and those who have less of it know nothing, or at least, know less than them. Age has nothing to do with common sense.

It’s not the experience that counts, it is what you learn from it! You can gather a mountain load of it and still have learnt little.

Wise words can come out of anyone, regardless of their age. Hell, even unwise words can come out of anyone, elder people can say the biggest monstrosities and spit out bad advice.

Knowledge doesn’t, automatically, equal wisdom. It’s what you do with it and how you apply it, learning from it in the process.

Of course that, someone who learns from experience from a young age, that will continue to grow as they age. But not everyone absorbs life’s lessons at the same speed throughout life and some only start to really learn later in their life.

Often time, people don’t even listen to what I say. But then, sometimes when someone does listen, they are surprised. And that’s really annoying! The fact that I look younger aggravates that feeling even further. I’m 26 right now and older people often confuse me with a teen. Frustration! What’s worse is, they think it’s great that I look younger, because you know, for a female being young or looking young is something to aspire as opposed to looking “older” is just plain ugly and must be avoided at all costs! I could go on, but this is another topic.

I would much more rather look my age and be heard.

“Some days I’d tell my mom that I just wasn’t ready for marriage but she told me that I should think about it more. After a few months, the guy’s family called and told me that I had to make up my mind. They said “Marry him or risk never being married.” I was so frustrated at the amount of pressure they were putting on me. I began praying to see what God wanted and what was best. I spoke to a Mullah about the situation. He told me that it would be in my best interest to marry the guy and it would make my parents as well as God happy with me.”

- Part 1: At seventeen I was engaged to a man I had never met.

“I realized after too damn long that women are not created to be there for men. We are not created to satisfy their sexual needs regardless of what some assholes may think. Women were not created to make a man feel important. Women were created because we’re just as fucking important as men are. It killed me inside. It really did. I hated everything I had become and everything that I had done to make him happy.”

- Part 2: Trouble in Paradise.

“I am not against all forms of arranged marriage. I don’t know if my marriage can even be called arranged because I did agree to it. But I am against women not having the same rights as men. I am against women being forced to marry. I am against women not being able to get a divorce unless they go to hell and back but a man with the snap of his fingers can get divorced.”

- Part 3: Girls don’t run.

This is a reality not many realize exists. I know a lot of uninformed people who would probably dismiss it as fiction.